What’s In and What’s Out for 2025
The Zillion Trillion Edit
Housekeeping notes:
A friend was recently asking me about diaper bags. I don’t believe in diaper bags, I believe in bag organizers. Why buy a bag that you won’t use again in 2 years? These are the best I found, a dear stylist friend recommended them to me when I had Atlas and they have been a staple with Phoenix too.
It’s been getting a bit chilly in LA, so I have been shopping for coats that are not too warm or too fuzzy. I Just ordered this jacket, and I am seriously thinking about this coat. Plus this scarf is on sale and the color is so pretty!!
Metier came out with a new color for my favorite bag and I am swooning….. manifesting her 2025
Speaking of iconic colors, MILKTEETH just came out with the coolest colored pants.
I know it’s very anti-substack, BUT I started an Instagram for Zillion Trilllion so check it out here.
My friend Caitlin Burke posted these shoes, and I cannot stop thinking about them. The question is red or green?
This Stem Garden Toy is the cutest thing I have ever seen and it keeps my toddler entertained for 30mins + which is a win.
Top 5 things I learned on TikTok this week Parenting edition:
New year, new vibes, same chaotic energy. As we stumble into 2025 with a latte in one hand and a toddler pulling on the other, it’s time to get real about what’s IN and OUT for the year ahead. Because if we’re going to survive parenting, fashion, and the general absurdity of life, we might as well do it together.
Here’s the official Zillion Trillion guide to 2025.
Parenting Trends
IN: “Gentle-ish” Parenting
Because sometimes you can gently remind your toddler to stop licking the dog without turning into a full Pinterest board of patience.
OUT: “Pinterest Parenting”
If the craft requires more than three supplies, it’s a no. No one has time for glitter glue and pipe cleaners when snacks are life and naps are war.
IN: Encouraging Independent Play
Translation: letting them play in a cardboard box for two hours while you scroll TikTok. It’s called fostering creativity.
OUT: “Doing It All” Supermom Energy
We’re not trying to win gold in the Mom Olympics. It’s fine to ask for help, order takeout, and let Grandma be the hero of the bedtime story.
Fashion
IN: Personal style (I am begging)
OUT: Minimal Closets/ Capsule Wardrobes.
Get inspired, live a little make fashion mistakes. I promise it is fun.
IN: Fuzzy Soft Sweaters
Dreamy textures that feel like a warm hug, perfect for cozying up with a book while looking effortlessly polished.Personally loving this, this, this and this one.
OUT: Oversized Hoodies That Swallow You Whole
We love comfort, but let’s find a middle ground between “cozy” and “worn-out gym clothes.”
IN: Cashmere Socks
For those who understand that luxury begins at the feet. Bonus: they make every step in your house feel like a glide through a spa. Loving these ones.
OUT: The Sock Drawer Free-for-All
If your socks don’t match or have holes, 2025 is the year to upgrade.
IN: Silk Robes as Daywear
Whether you're chasing a toddler or sipping tea, a chic robe adds a touch of old Hollywood glamour to the mundane. Think Dries Van Noten silk Robes, Deiji Studios, Vintage Japanese Silk robes
OUT: Frumpy, Pilled Loungewear
I am not saying you need to dress for a gala, but looking in the mirror shouldn’t make you sigh.
IN: Wide-Leg Lounge Pants
Flowy and elegant, these bring a hint of “off-duty model” to your Netflix marathons.
OUT: Skin-Tight Yoga Pants for Everything
I know this is specifically an LA thing, but please stop it. Unless you are going to work out, you deserve better than to live in yoga pants.
Lifestyle
IN: “Just Survive the Day” Energy
Who cares if you didn’t make a three-course dinner? Your kids are fed, and you’ve survived. That’s the real win.
OUT: Overachieving New Year’s Resolutions
You’re not going to wake up at 5 a.m. for yoga or Marie Kondo your pantry. Let’s be honest: the only thing you’ll declutter is your browser history.
IN: Micro Self-Care
A hot shower, sneaking chocolate in the pantry, or sitting in your parked car for an extra five minutes. These moments count.
OUT: Self-Care as a Full-Time Job
I am tired of being told we need facials, green juice, and a morning meditation routine to feel “whole.” Sometimes, you just need coffee.
Food & Drink
IN: Casual Hosting
The other day Noora mentioned her one friend who orders pizza and Champagne every time she hosts. I want to be this girls best friend.
OUT: Brand Event type gatherings
I get it you have a budget and want to be Martha Stewart, but seriously – does every hang-out need such an ornate event? I am bored.
IN: “Snack Boards” for Dinner
Fancy? Nope. But throwing cheese, crackers, and fruit on a cutting board totally counts as a meal. Your kids will think it’s a feast.
OUT: Perfectly Balanced Meals
Your toddler will refuse the broccoli anyway. Focus on survival, not Instagram-worthy plates.
IN: Drinks in Insulated Mugs
Because hot coffee is a rare treasure and must be protected at all costs.
OUT: Reheating Your Coffee 14 Times
Microwaved coffee is officially cancelled. Invest in a thermos and thank us later.
Home & Décor
IN: “Controlled Chaos”
The toys are everywhere, the laundry is still in the dryer, and the dishes didn’t magically clean themselves. But hey, it’s a lived-in home.
OUT: Perfectly Curated Minimalism
Real talk: minimalist homes are just houses without kids.
IN: Kid Art Everywhere
Who needs Picasso when you’ve got a toddler with markers and a dream? Put that abstract scribble in a frame and call it modern art ( they will be so proud of themselves!)
OUT: Matching Pinterest-Worthy Playrooms
They’re going to dump everything on the floor anyway. Why fight it? If anything buy some good organization bins, they do miracles.
Parenting Phrases
IN: “It’s Fine, Everything’s Fine”
Your new mantra for when the toddler throws spaghetti on the ceiling and the baby is eating crayons.
OUT: “Cherish Every Moment”
Let’s be real: not every moment is cherishable. Some moments are just about survival.
IN: “Pick Your Battles”
Because sometimes it’s easier to let them wear pajamas to the grocery store than argue for 20 minutes.
OUT: “Because I Said So”
Let’s get creative. Try: “Because Mommy needs a break” or “Because the invisible unicorn on my shoulder said no.”
Social Media
IN: Authentic Parenting Moments
Show the tantrums, the chaos, and the days when you accidentally use diaper cream as toothpaste. We’re all in this mess together.
OUT: Perfectly Curated Mom Influencers
We’re done pretending anyone’s life looks like that 24/7. If there’s no mess in the background, we’re suspicious.
This year is all about embracing the chaos and leaning into what works for you. Whether that’s a crazy outfit, an extra hour of screen time, or a dinner of frozen waffles — let’s ditch the guilt and focus on what makes parenting (and life) a little more fun.
Here’s to surviving 2025 in style. Now go drink your coffee before it gets cold.
Besos,
Victoria
Love all of this
“It’s Fine, Everything’s Fine” - my parenting mantra for sure