How to Raise Good Humans in a World That Feels Bad

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Honestly, this might be the most important conversation I’ve had on the podcast so far. I sat down with

Melinda Wenner Moyer

, the science journalist and author behind How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes and her newest must-read, How to Raise a Kid in a Cruel World. And yes, the title says it all. We talked about the emotional minefield that is modern parenting: how to help our kids cope with anxiety without passing on our own, how to raise empathetic humans in a world that’s leaning hard into apathy, and how to model strength without pretending everything’s fine when it’s clearly not.

This book hit me somewhere deep. As someone who’s constantly toggling between wanting to shield my kids from everything and also hand them the tools to survive everything, Melinda’s work gave me language for the things I’ve been feeling but couldn’t quite articulate. Her research-backed insights don’t talk down to you—they sit with you in the mess, the worry, the quiet rage, and offer something that’s actually useful. And healing. This isn’t about becoming the perfect parent (we know that’s not a thing)—it’s about becoming a more conscious one.

So whether you’re wondering how to handle your kid’s friendship drama without spiraling, or just trying to raise a decent human while the world feels like it’s falling apart—this episode is for you. You can listen to the full conversation now wherever you get your podcasts + here on substack. And if you’re like me and need this wisdom within reach, grab Melinda’s new book, How to Raise a Kid in a Cruel World. It’s the kind of book you dog-ear, underline, and buy for every parent you know.

You can follow Melinda on Instagram @melindawmoyer and read more of her work over on her Substack

Besos,

Victoria

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